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kmw97   in reply to stephanie11812   on

Single Mom and Pregnant need Housing ASAP

Hey, I had my son when I was 18 and I can never imagine how hard it would be to have two at that age. Obviously, this is all a very personal decision and only you can make it. I personally have never thought of adoption as "giving up" a child; Also, I personally have never done this, and I'm not sure that I could have. I just think maybe you should go talk to someone about it, even if you know you will never do it! Adoption is a lot different these days; birth moms can, if they choose, still be in the child's life. My heart breaks for you and you daughter, and your son who is not yet here. Motherhood is stressful at my age (35) still; it was even more so stressful when I was younger! What part of Illinois do you live in? My parents live in Illinois and my dad is a pastor; I will check with him if he knows of any resources that may be of help to you.
Also, if you are 18 I don't think your mom should be able to still have you on her benefits. I am not sure how this works in IL, but especially if she isn't helping/supporting you in any way. You need to go into you local Department of Social Services and talk to someone about this. I don't think she has to take you off; I believe if you go in and talk with someone, or file for yourself, DSS will take you off of her benefits. Like I said, I'm not positive about all this, but it doesn't sound right.
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kmw97   in reply to The Wizard   on

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I am in a program and will be graduating May 2014. I was 1 of 10 chosen out of 69 applicants. I feel so blessed to have an opportunity to gain education and the understanding to work in a field I will love and enjoy working in. I am a single mom to three boys and have been out of work since 11/12, due to the intensity of this program, I have been unable to find another job. I am currently attending clinic 4 days a week. In the fall I will be attending clinic 5 days a week, 8 hours a day; this along with studying and running a household leaves little time for me to work as it is. I am hoping to get school loans for the fall, and have applied for numerous scholarships, grants, and other forms of aid. The problem is I have not had a dollar to my name since May, be the grace of God I have somehow made it this far. I suffer with migraines which have been increasingly worse, due to the stress of mounting bills and nothing coming in for the next 11 weeks. I have tried to get a loan to cover my immediate expenses, but due to the fact that I have poor credit, this doesn't seem to be an option. I have spent hours looking for options, hours stressing... I need to be spending this time studying. If I don't pass my courses all of this will have been for nothing. I believe God gave me this opportunity for a reason; I believe that my purpose in life is to help sick people; I trust that God will see me through this difficult time. I am always wanting to help others, now I am in a position where I am hoping someone can help me. If anyone can give me any advice or information as far as where I can get some help I would greatly appreciate it! Thank you!!
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kmw97   in reply to Bee's Knees   on

Extreme Makeover: Home Edition Application

TO ANYONE READING THIS; PLEASE TAKE NOTE THIS POST IS FROM 2010. EXTREME MAKEOVER: HOME EDITION AIRED ITS LAST EPISODE IN DECEMBER 2012. THEY ARE NO LONGER TAKING APPLICATIONS, AS THE SHOW IS NO LONGER IN PRODUCTION. ABC PRODUCED THE SHOW, SO IF YOU WOULD LIKE THEM TO START IT BACK UP, YOU WOULD BE BETTER OF GOING TO ABC'S WEBSITE AND WRITING YOUR COMMENTS THERE.
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kmw97   in reply to holyone1   on

LET IT GO BY T. D JAKES. A MUST READ

You can't make someone stay who doesn't want to. This doesn't make the person being left, who chooses to give this issue to God and "let it go", in the wrong. This post is from years ago, but someone who stumbles upon it and sees your interpretation of this portion of the bible, without having any prior knowledge, will not understand this. If someone is in an abusive marriage, and they are at risk of being harmed, they DO NEED TO LET IT GO AND WALK AWAY... you are not God and are not in any place to judge or tell others what is and is not biblical. I am not trying to be smart, these types of comments just scare me, because someone who has no understanding of God could really take this the wrong way!
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kmw97   in reply to medakaisgame   on

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I totally understand how a man can rope you in with lies. Have you looked into getting any sort of medical help through the state? I wonder if you have postpartum depression? I am sure the constant abuse from that "little boy" and his equally mature gf didn't help, but it could be continuing due to the changes during pregnancy. As women pregnancy really knocks our bodies out of whack, and sometimes things never go back to the way they should be. Motherhood on your own is HARD AND LONELY sometimes, try not to feel guilty about being human. I get the feeling you love your daughter, you just need help. Your parents sound like a great support system for you; don't be humiliated you need their help, I would think they help you because they love you... I don't know the whole situation, but I know how my mom is, she can't stand to see me in pain. I would bet she just wants you to be happy. Try to focus on all you have to be thankful for, TRY to put that jerk in the past, don't let him take any more from you! I know all this is easier said than done...
Being that postpartum depression has gotten so much recognition lately, many more resources are available. Try looking into those, even if it's just a online support group, if that is what's going on, you may find it helpful to find people who have felt the same way as you and have come out on the other side ok. I hope things start to look up for you!! Please try to find something other than a substance to numb you; it only makes everything 100xs worse... not trying to preach, just speaking from personal experience.
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kmw97   in reply to Rob and Fam   on

RESOURCES FOR LOW INCOME INDIVIDUALS

Hey, I am sorry your dealing with all of that, life can really be a lot sometimes! I have been reading a lot of info regarding different types of assistance due to my own situation. I'm am not sure if this is an option, but try getting in touch with the bus company and asking them if they know of any resources for someone in your position. If you have to call more than once, or call different numbers, until you find someone who is sympathetic and willing to hear you out. You are not the first people this type of thing has happened too, so I would think that they have seen various ways others have been helped in tough situations. Also, try contacting The Salvation Army, Catholic Charities, local churches, and the Dept of Social Services there in FL, I am not sure how the state works, since you haven't been there too long. I would think they could at least guide you towards the right resources. Don't leave any stone unturned, it is tie consuming and stressful looking for help, but it is out there!!
I wish you guys luck and will pray you find the help you need!! I have 3 boys myself so I understand how stressful it can be not knowing how you are going to provide for them. TRY not to let it get you guys too stressed out! Congrats to you and your fiance, enjoy your son :) they REALLY do grow up so fast... I know, you have probably heard that a million times already, but they really do :)
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kmw97   in reply to savielovesyou96   on

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I sent you a one to one, not sure how they show up, just wanted to make sure you saw it :)
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kmw97   in reply to AmyEdith   on

Help me find a place to live & take care of my 5 month old!!!

Although this 'sounds' like the solution, how do you expect children who are coming from poverty to be covered by their families? In many cases teen parents are in these situations because the fathers don't work, and the families are not in a situation to provide assistance as they are barely getting by themselves. I fully agree that fathers need to step up and provide, but there are flaws with this as well. No one is forced to have children, of course mistakes happen, but motherhood is a CHIOCE! Wouldn't we all love to work part time and have our financial stress relieved in the name of motherhood, I know I would love to give all my time to focus on being the best mom possible. This is not reality, we are living in the real world. You have to work, to pay bills, to provide for your children, that you 'chose' to have. Plenty of well adjusted children are raised in limited income families, while it may be tough, you raise them to understand the value of hard work, living within your means, and appreciation for the things they have been blessed with. What you are proposing, sounds to me, like raising children to believe they are entitled to something simply for choosing to have children, how is this any different than welfare? I have no problem with receiving assistance to get you to a stable place, or asking for help. I was a teen mother, I worked 5-6 days a week, sometimes 16 hrs a day, because that is what I had to do to provide for my son. I am now 34 and finishing up school to get an Associates degree, I planned a very different path for myself, but the day I 'chose' to become a mother I had to make some changes to that plan. We cannot raise children to believe they are entitled to ANYTHING! That is one of the biggest problems in today's society. If you want a career and advancement in the workplace, you HAVE TO WORK for it. It is a know fact that motherhood is one of the hardest jobs, the compansation for it is not monetary, it's actually way better in my opinion, but that is only my opinion. Can you imagine how many people would be running around having babies if they knew for 8 years they would "NEVER be reduced to the standard of welfare", would only have to work 20hrs a week or less, but would be compensated at the median level? This is crazy, what reason would anyone have for setting and achieving goals if they could make more being a stay at home mom? Not to mention, why should siblings, parents and grandparents, etc be forced to raise and support children they didn't choose to have? ENTITLEMENT is a disease children these days are exposed to, whether they are rich, middle class or poor, I guarentee you a child raised in a lower income, hard working, loving home is going to be more well adjusted that the one who sits home with mommy all day listening to her talk about how sheis entitled to a comfortable, stress free life to raise her children. I honestly don't mean to bash your plan, but the sense of entitlement today's children are being raised with is the exact reason we are nit producing GREAT leaders. To be a great leader, or anything great for that matter, you need to be a hard worker, have a high moral and ethic standards, practice compassion, empathy and honesty.... These qualities are what children need to be being raised with! These are all quite the opposite of entitlement!
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kmw97   in reply to AmyEdith   on

Help me find a place to live & take care of my 5 month old!!!

Although this 'sounds' like the solution, how do you expect children who are coming from poverty to be covered by their families? In many cases teen parents are in these situations because the fathers don't work, and the families are not in a situation to provide assistance as they are barely getting by themselves. I fully agree that fathers need to step up and provide, but there are flaws with this as well. No one is forced to have children, of course mistakes happen, but motherhood is a CHIOCE! Wouldn't we all love to work part time and have our financial stress relieved in the name of motherhood, I know I would love to give all my time to focus on being the best mom possible. This is not reality, we are living in the real world. You have to work, to pay bills, to provide for your children, that you 'chose' to have. Plenty of well adjusted children are raised in limited income families, while it may be tough, you raise them to understand the value of hard work, living within your means, and appreciation for the things they have been blessed with. What you are proposing, sounds to me, like raising children to believe they are entitled to something simply for choosing to have children, how is this any different than welfare? I have no problem with receiving assistance to get you to a stable place, or asking for help. I was a teen mother, I worked 5-6 days a week, sometimes 16 hrs a day, because that is what I had to do to provide for my son. I am now 34 and finishing up school to get an Associates degree, I planned a very different path for myself, but the day I 'chose' to become a mother I had to make some changes to that plan. We cannot raise children to believe they are entitled to ANYTHING! That is one of the biggest problems in today's society. If you want a career and advancement in the workplace, you HAVE TO WORK for it. It is a know fact that motherhood is one of the hardest jobs, the compansation for it is not monetary, it's actually way better in my opinion, but that is only my opinion. Can you imagine how many people would be running around having babies if they knew for 8 years they would "NEVER be reduced to the standard of welfare", would only have to work 20hrs a week or less, but would be compensated at the median level? This is crazy, what reason would anyone have for setting and achieving goals if they could make more being a stay at home mom? Not to mention, why should siblings, parents and grandparents, etc be forced to raise and support children they didn't choose to have? ENTITLEMENT is a disease children these days are exposed to, whether they are rich, middle class or poor, I guarentee you a child raised in a lower income, hard working, loving home is going to be more well adjusted that the one who sits home with mommy all day listening to her talk about how sheis entitled to a comfortable, stress free life to raise her children. I honestly don't mean to bash your plan, but the sense of entitlement today's children are being raised with is the exact reason we are nit producing GREAT leaders. To be a great leader, or anything great for that matter, you need to be a hard worker, have a high moral and ethic standards, practice compassion, empathy and honesty.... These qualities are what children need to be being raised with! These are all quite the opposite of entitlement!
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kmw97   in reply to kmw97   on

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Sorry, I re-read my post, I don't mean to sound like such a know-it-all lol! To someone who doesn't know me it might come across that way oops!! I don't mean it too!!
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kmw97   in reply to LifeIsCruel   on

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Hey, thank you to you too! I'm apologize I said I didn't know how old you are but you said it right in your post, DUh:) I am 34, and around 10 years ago I went through a really rough time. I was so upset with myself for all the time I had "wasted" and was always "looking back" wishing I had done things differently. Now that I look back on that time in my life I realize that I spent so much time and energy worrying ab out the past; I couldn't do anything about it, so what was the point? I thought I was so "old" and had wasted all this time (now I really know :) JK) I'm not saying you do this... BUT IF you ever find yourself doing this, or worrying about things you can't change, try to shift your focus to things you can do. Even little things, which I'm sure you do, but little things you can do to help your grandma while she's at work. I always found that when I focused on little things like that, things that would make other people happy, seeing them happy would take my mind off all the other "stuff" that I NEEDED to do, but couldn't, for one reason or another.

I agree with you, people who have it easy don't appreciate what they have, or the opportunities it gives them! Not all of course :) but some. That guy can't look you in the eyes because karma is a B&#$@ Really though... if he could just "man Up" :) and apologize to you SINCERELY, that would be a great thing! Of course, it will probably not happen, but ya never know... one day. I wish you the best, I can tell you are a good person too!
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kmw97   in reply to LifeIsCruel   on

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Hey, I can't imagine what it's like to be bullied, I'm sorry you had to through that. The people/kids who are so cruel to people like that are very unhappy people inside, I'm sure you have heard this all before... but you are not the problem! How miserable must a person be that the only way they can feel better about themselves is to put another person down? I'm not at all defending these people; I just hope you know that you are so much better than any person capable of inflicting that kind of pain on another individual! When I was in high-school I couldn't even eat in the cafeteria because I couldn't stand to see the people that were bullied and sitting by themselves.
Please try to stay positive, I don't know how you feel, but I know what it's like to feel stuck and defeated. It's obvious your gram mom loves A LOT! I bet she is proud of you, regardless of how you feel about yourself. When those dark thoughts come in, trying to convince you, you would be better off... Think of her, all those things she does for you are because she loves you! She would NOT be better off without you! Just the fact that you want to take care of her, shows your heart, and how much you appreciate her, and as a mom myself, I can tell you that is worth so much! So many people today would take that for granted. She obviously raised you well!
I don't know how old you, but as I have gotten older, I have noticed, people tend to become somewhat more compassionate to others. Maybe "real life" hits them and they realize every person has a heart and hurts, who knows. Have you tried finding an online support group for others who struggle with obesity? Or a network of some type? From what I have read, you have some really clear goals, as far as education. The internet is a great tool for furthering your education, I have 3 kids and did a lot of my pre reqs online, I also dropped out of high school, I'm not sure how long you have been out, but I would try to get you GED asap, just because, in my opinion, it's easiest that way. Try to take one goal at a time, while your stuck at home, make the most of it; make Google your best friend! Google "free study tools for GED"... once you accomplish that first goal it becomes addictive You will believe in yourself and that in itself will change so many things! GOOD LUCK TO U! Sorry for the l o n g post, I read yours and something just told me to respond. Unfortunately, financially I have no means to help anybody, that's how I found this site, looking for a loan to get through my summer semester of clinics. So hopefully I said SOMETHING helpful in my ranting! I will keep you and your gram mom in my prayers! Honestly though something tells me you have a lot of potential, so please don't doubt yourself or set any limitations!
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kmw97   in reply to barbiecakes808   on

tammio

You are an inspiration :-) I have been looking at all these assistance sites you have guided other to, trying to find some help getting through the next year of school until I graduate. That's not the point though... I get so side tracked reading about different ways peope have helped others. The profound difference just one person can make is amazing. I have always been a "giver", I joke and say that's why I'm so broke lol. I have come across so many ways you can help people other than money, not that I have ever felt that was the only way, but new ideas, I guess I should say. What you are doing is amazing :-) Providing people with the tools to find the help they need is a valuable gift!
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kmw97   in reply to Rena624   on

I need money - free money to help pay bills

try modest needs, this sounds like something they may be able to help with
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